Dear Colette – On Communicating Boundaries
Dear Colette,
What tools do you use to stay firm in your boundaries? How did you get there? Is it always something to reaffirm?
-C
Dear C,
The most powerful tool/practice I use to stay firm in my boundaries is “non-violent communication.”
How I got “here” in my skill boundary expression is by practicing expressing my boundaries without judgment whenever an opportunity arises.
And yes it is something you should reaffirm every time you feel like it’s not clear to the other what your boundaries are.
I also recorded a longer answer for you. I hope this helps.. 🙂
Thank you Collette for this very helpful resource. It sounds like it’s a great tool for helping build the ontogeny of ones truth and power and helps to build long term relationships by expressing ones boundaries with out creating a tension filled conflict of who’s right.
I appreciate the audio clip as well.
Here is the link to Marshall Rosenbergs lecture.
https://youtu.be/l7TONauJGfc
I like how he says to avoid the punishment aspect as well . In my understanding of this it’s The Narcissistic ones who will seek to punish and so if your partner seeks to punish for being critical or establishing boundaries that has to be stopped or you need no contact anymore because with those types it’s only their way or the highway.
There’s different types of Narcissism and so each case is unique.
Women are complex ever evolving spiritual beings of creation and life force and require their partners to be in tune phylogenetically for it to be a deep intimate relationship.
The essence of ❤️
Say hello to Cutie and nice pink and black board for the content organization of Pervette. Very unique and you are true to your initial vision of pink and black .
Narcissist’s have no boundaries.
https://thenarcissisticlife.com/the-narcissist-and-revenge/
Very appropriate New cover photo!