You don’t disrupt the default world, you don’t seek a professional, and you don’t tell your partner. You just simply observe your fantasies every time they come up. You take note of the details of the fantasy and when they pop up. And you try to get at the root of them. Maybe you’ll notice that whenever there’s a deadline, you can’t stop masturbating and playing out these fantasies. And you analyze them and arrive at an explanation, Oh! Every time you’re in a situation where you have to manage every minute of your day, all you want to do is be taken by a dominant woman and suck on her cock. By gaining awareness of these fantasies and understanding their origin and the conditions in which they arise, you begin to gain control over them.