I’m a dominatrix.

I play with dreams

and private parts¹as in secrets, innermost subconscious desires, and other holy truths–what did you think I mean?

I collect cries and tears

I sublimate fears

I dissolve shame

And give it a new name²called the story you ought to tell

And everyday, I move closer

to being able to say

I’ve seen it all.

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Maybe that’s why people come to me

They want to know

They’re not alone

In their fantasy

to let go

and surrender

to a woman

who has found her power

and can show you the way..

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I’ve been doing this professionally for almost 15 years. It all started in 2005. And since then I spent the first 10 years deep in the practice of BDSM³as in sessioning A TON, to a point of almost burnt out. And then in the last 5 years, I slowed everything down to a point where I can really contemplate the why and how of what this is. And in these past few years⁴of which I call “my sabbatical” I started to develop a theory of practice behind BDSM as a way of knowing⁵as in BDSM can be a lens through which to see oneself, the world, and how to live in it to help the curious make sense of this world that may seem dark and strange to the outside looking in.

These were the questions I kept on coming back to..

What is BDSM?

Why are some of us driven towards it?

Why does it pique the curiosity of all?

Why is it commonly misunderstood?

Why should we come to understand it?

What is a dominatrix?

Why does she exist?

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As I begin to answer those questions, I begin to see myself and the nature of this work more clearly and its significance in our world. And I’ve come to know and believe that this strange art is something we should all be practicing. Because this practice is really play..