Forward
when i first started working as a pro domme at a commercial dungeon,1called the gates
we were told very early on that there are three things that you don’t talk about with your clients:
- never tell them you’re sick2because sickness isn’t sexy. and you want to maintain the illusion that you’re invincible
- never discuss about your real-life relationships and partners
- never discuss politics
because all of the above would ruin the fantasy.
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it’s sep 1st 2025 as i write this. and i’ve just been through one hell of a summer. from end of may till now, i’ve been taking care of my mom as her lung cancer spreads further into her bones.
then my twin flame died in a fighter jet crash.
and in the background are the news of a double genocide live-streaming on our phones. families being ripped apart in our police state.
i can’t pretend like it’s not happening
and put on a good face and act as if
everything is normal.
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for me the only way to move forward is to talk about the things that matter to me
matters of sickness and dying, life and death, loss and grief
the not so pretty sexy things
sharing my reality may shatter the illusion for some
but it’s okay
i rather create a shared reality
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dominatrixes are modern and edgy archetypes of feminine leadership.
we work and play with our power
and create worlds that realize secret desires and subvert societal norms
i’m curious to see what would it look like if we share more of our sides
and our story and wisdomme that we’ve collected
from playing on the edge
and in the shadows
.
what can we teach the world around us?
how to play?
how to be free?
how to not give a fuck?
how to make wild fantasies come true?
.
i want to see how we do it
how we exist and navigate the real world
how we work with and move through real-world pain.
how we navigate a world of blatant injustice and abuse of power
how we transform not just our subs’ but our own fantasies into reality
.
we hold dozens and hundreds of secrets and desires
what can we say about the collective unconscious?
what are our theories about how the world works?
what are our philosophies?
what do we value?
what is the good fight
that we’ll always roll up our sleeves for?
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we have an opportunity to do something radical.
to show what the power of the feminine looks like.
what true power looks like.
it’s not force or control.
it’s not instilling fear.
there are no lies
in our dungeon
and domain.
.
egos
are
checked
at
the
door.
.
our power is
our ability to create
safe spaces
to play in
to dream in
to be free in.
.
our power is
our truth.
back to the playground